Happy Valentine’s day!!

Happy Valentine’s day!!

Well, as I am sitting here at 6:17 AM at my little office desk as I call it, I remembered that I once had a personal life that I blogged about.

Happy Valentine’s day to all my readers and I really hope you had a fantastic one. As for me, I am still bloated from eating too much, and later on today I get to eat more at the Florida State Fair. I have been getting more clients, which makes my day even busier. I dropped so many TV shows, and in search of a nanny or part-time baby sitter to come to the house, but it is so hard to trust nowadays. 

So for now I wanted to share a little bit of what I have been up to with you all. The link “Happy Valentine’s day!!” title is what I wrote for valentine’s day on a business level. 

On another note, my dear son has been growing up, getting pickier with food. His dad spoils him rotten, and there’s nothing I could do about it. I will probably update pictures later, but we went on a valentine’s play-date and mommy had to bake cupcakes. He had lot of valentine’s from the little ones, just hope he could actually understand that they were not trash. 🙂

As for now, I am going to close my eyes for one hour. Later Alligators!

Goals Goals Goals…What are those?

Honestly, setting goals was never a big thing of mine. If I wanted something. I would try achieving it, most of the times without a plan of action. The results were always frustrating, because I would lose track and focus on other things.

When I started college, it was a must to set small goals and follow through if I wanted to get ahead. It was a working progress, but I would lose track every now and then, until I became and expert in writing my to do list and checking everything off at the end of the day. It was very rewarding, because my time was managed properly and I always had extra time to socialize( which I love doing).

Well, graduation happened, baby happened, life happened and my goals were out the window. I knew what I wanted out of life, but I just never took the time to write anything down, just because of the same old excuses: “Oh, I don’t have time” “Baby is not giving me the time a day” or I would just simply forget or think of 30000 things to do and then forget again.

It was brought to my attention that I take on a lot of projects and never finish, because of my lack of focus or maybe multitasking too much. I was told if I focus on one project at a time I would accomplish more, than to have multiple unfinished projects. Of course I do tend to multitask a lot with no clear path, just go go go, and in the process I would miss something.

Solution:

I started writing my to do list again, well a list for almost everything from baby schedule to meal planning and I feel such a great sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.

I took the time to write my personal goals, which is very detailed on when I want to accomplished them, the steps I need  to take and of course organized by types of goals. I have 9 category of goals: Career, Health/Fitness, Education, Relationship, Family, Creative, Spiritual, Travel, Financial Goals. I have a quote next to each type to motivate me and I have it broken down on how I will reach each one.

For example:

Health/Fitness Goals:  I want to be in shape for the rest of my life.

• I want to lose 10 pounds by August 18,2013

1. I will exercise every day except Saturdays and Sundays
2. I will eat a clean diet
3. Do not eat at any fast food restaurants through September 1
4. I will make my protein shakes and will be juicing everyday
5. I will eat more vegetables daily
6. By June 15, be in the habit of drinking 4 large glasses of water at work every day

It took quite some time, but it is all worth it, because I love seeing where I am going and what I need to improve on.

So, what am I doing? 

I am writing down my to do list based on my goals, I choose one out of each category and everyday I am doing something to bring them to pass. Some of course are shorter then others, but with patience I know if I keep doing what I am doing I will get where I need to be in life and stay focused.

Do you write your goals down or do you think it is a waste of time? do you have a system in place which helps you fulfill your goals?

Xoxo

Take Control of Your Happiness

A couple days ago I downloaded the DailyBible app on my phone, for inspiration and words of wisdom. This morning I wanted to explore the app, when I came across a Joel Osteen audio podcast titled “Take Control of Your Happiness”. 

It was twenty six minutes long, so I decided to listen while I ate breakfast, and man I glad I did. 

As a mom I feel it is necessary to strengthen my spirituality for the sake of my own little family. Though I must admit that I do skip out on church sometimes, and barely could point out a verse in the bible. I was raised catholic, but never felt the teaching was done well enough. I do pray and find the best that works for me to worship.

Alright, now back on the podcast…

“If you spend your life trying to please everyone and trying to make them happy, you might miss your destiny”

I totally agree, because I slightly regret the choice I made in getting my B.S. degree, just because I did not want to disappoint certain people. When I look back I should of always followed my instinct and go after what I really wanted to do. Now even though I am behind on the professional experience when it comes to event planning, I do think now it is time to make myself happy on my career choice. 

He also talked about what the pilots call the four forces : Lift, Thrust, Weight, Drag

 “There are those that “Lift” you up. They brighten your day and make you feel better about yourself. Those that give “Thrust” will motivate you and help you achieve your goals. Than you get to those that are like “Weight”. They are the ones that pull you down, make you feel worse after seeing them, and you feel worse leaving than when you came. Finally there are those that are a “Drag”. They always have a sad story, problem they are facing, and look to you to cheer them up or fix the problem.”

According to the four forces you only want to surround yourself with people who lift you up, and people who thrust you, because if you surround yourself with people who  are weight or drag you will never reach your full potential.

After listening, I started reflecting on my own life to decide if I was a lift, thrust, weight or drag. I wanted to know if I was holding myself back from my destiny. I still believe I am a strong-minded woman, who tries bringing joy wherever I go, because I know I hate feeling down. I know lately though I might have been a drag to my partner, by wanting him to accommodate my needs, so I could go out and work on my business, instead of just taking care of things myself or showing that I am trying.

 

 

So, what am I doing? Well I came to the conclusion that no one deserves to be surrounded with negativity, therefore I am surrounding myself with lifters, and thrusters, while I change my attitude to also be a lifter and a thrust-er to everyone around me.

 

Do you have people around you that lift, thrust, weight or drag you? Or are you doing the lifting,thrusting,weighting or dragging? But the most important question is: what are you doing about it?